So a few weekends ago my sister and I took a trip to Destin, FL to visit the little beach towns and just chill for a night! It was so nice. When we are together we are always lifting each other up, complimenting each other, and encouraging each other. It’s always kind-of like a mini motivational conference just for the two of us when we’re together. Cue all the Beyoncé songs. Ha!
That in itself is enough to make for a very refreshing and relaxing getaway. This next part was just icing on the cake.
We had been walking in and out of stores for a while and finally came across an Aerie store. We are both pretty obsessed with Aerie and the message they stand for and were pretty pumped to have another one so close by! This one was brand new and beautifully decorated with a little hangout corner where you could sip on sparkling water and make little dried herb sachets, there were positive affirmations ALL over the walls and throughout the store and what impacted us the most was the dressing rooms. I have never before been in a dressing room like this and it was such an awesome experience, as weird as that may sound! So you walk back and there are positive affirmations and inspiration written in big gold quotes all over the walls which was so cool and then when you go into the dressing rooms there are notes and handwritten affirmations hanging all over. The coolest part to me was the mirror. There was a certain hanging over the mirror that said “You have to love yourself on the inside before you can love yourself on the outside.” So you had to read that and move the curtain aside before you could even look at yourself in the mirror. The certain covering the mirror allowed you time to get in a mental place where you could ENJOY trying on bras, yoga pants, lounge clothes, etc. It set you up in a way that made you feel confident and safe and free of judgement before you even started to look in the mirror and while it may seem super simple, it’s amazing what being in a positive environment like that can do for a girl when she’s trying on clothes. Especially for one who’s love language is words of affirmation.. Ha!
We are so hard on ourselves as women and we need to be so much kinder. There’s enough opposition and crap to deal with everyday (if we’re being real here) so let’s not turn against ourselves and each other to make matters worse! Our mindset is a huge deal and if we have goals and places we’re trying to get to, the only thing that might be hindering us is the way we speak to that person in the mirror. I LOVE the message Aerie stands for because it’s not about wishing you looked like the models in the photos, or wishing you could fit into the size she’s wearing (eh hm.. Victoria’s Secret…) It’s ALL about celebrating the beauty of women no matter what! They don’t edit the photos of their models at all, which is SO amazing. So you’re surrounded by photos of models who are actually REAL women of ALL sizes. Their message gives every woman permission to drop the mask and be who she is and not what others say she should be. Who’s to say stretch marks and dimples aren’t “the norm”? Because, news flash.. they actually are! Who’s to say what the ideal bust size is. Who’s to say that beautiful has a specific size, skin tone, eye color, etc. NO. We have to stop living with this mind set and understand that we are all so uniquely amazing simply because God created us. We are all works of art to Him and he made us exactly the way we are because He thinks we’re beautiful this way. If we are living up to God’s standards of beauty simply just by being alive and being ourselves then who the heck cares what the world thinks, right??
You know that saying the grass is always greener on the other side? That’s such a lie. The grass is ALWAYS greener where you water it. I also think it’s important to understand as a whole, as women together that we ALL deal with insecurities at some point, all of us. I have always been small and petite but in my mind it used to be TOO small, TOO petite and I spent a couple years of my teenage/early adult life feeling like less of a woman because of it! How ridiculous is that? Somewhere in my teenage mind a seed was planted by the media around me of what the ideal woman should look like and that was definitely not me in my eyes. But who gets to tell us what the ideal woman should look like? The Lord does, our Father, our CREATOR says that in His eyes we are the ideal woman. We all are. There is NO true ideal and anyone who tries to set that standard is no-one we need to be spending our precious time with because our God created each and every one of us so uniquely different from the last and that’s because there is not 1 ideal, there are billions. Each one of us was created with purpose, captivating beauty, and so much love to give. We need to get real and raw with ourselves, drop the mask, and learn to LOVE the person in the mirror. That woman has your back. That body is carrying you through life, that heart allows you to keep breathing and wake up every morning and that mind is full of beautiful ideas, perspectives and more power than you know. Speak LIFE to yourself! Be kind to yourself!! Treat that woman in the mirror like she was your very best friend. Can you imagine how hurt our friends would be if we spoke to them the same way that we sometimes speak to ourselves? It’s heart breaking to think about. It needs to change. We have to learn how to love ourselves inside and out with our words, our thoughts, our fuel, and our actions.
So next time you see a friend or your sister or your mom, or your grandma, or your aunt, or your mother in law or ANY woman in your life, create a safe place for them. Give them permission to be themselves! Compliment their real and raw beauty. Every time you’re together focus on positivity and life-giving conversation. We HAVE to build each other up and stop tearing down out of insecurity. We have to. Aerie reminded me of the importance of all of this and I’m so thankful for that.
I hope this was helpful or motivation to you in some way! If it was, please leave me a comment! I love getting to connect with whoever’s reading these posts.
Thanks so much for reading!